Spinal Metastasis

Question: diganosed with spinal metastases. help!? my fiance has been complaining about back pain for a while and then a few weeks ago he collapsed on the floor and couldnt move. he was taken to a hospital and done many tests, he ended up staying there for a week. The doctor came and said he has spinal metastases. Malignant tumors. Their making him take kemo, and he's abosoulutly freightend. he cries every day, and wouldnt do anything. i understand what he is goign through because i had breast cancer when i was 18. Im trying to calm him and resure him that everything would be okay but all he talks about is dying and worse. when he started kemo his hair began to fall out. so he shaved it all off crying histarically. i really dont know what to do. he isolates himself, i try so hard to be with him but he pushes me away and locks me out the room. i want to be with him the whole time but it looks like he doesnt want me there. i dont know what i should do. i tried so many times talking to him or being around him adn he wont listen. help! what should i do?

Answer: he is very fortunate to have you because you know how frightening and confusing it can be to be given that kind of news. it seems though like this may be a case in which some professional help is needed. as you know you must have strength and a positive attitude to fight this battle and you will be a great help to him when he will let you. maybe this will pass and he will be willing to share his pain and permit your assistance and support. you may have to enlist family members or talk to his doctor about this to get him some psychological care. may God be with you and him in your struggle.