Traumatic Ulcers

Question: How can I apologize to my parents when they won't speak to me? Hi, I am a grown woman who has hurt and angered my mother and adoptive father. Six years ago I was diagnosed with depression, ulcers, traumatic stress syndrome and had quite a bit of dental work done in one month's time. I was placed on Xanax, Oxycontin, and some type of pain killer that contained Codiene. I only took the medidcations for about a month before I quite literally lost my mind. I said and did things that angered, hurt, and shocked my parents. Immediately after that the doctor placed me on Ambien and Celexa. I stayed kind of strange for at least a year while I was on that stuff. Now, years later my closest brother says my personality is nice again and I have returned to my normal sself. Only thing different is that I have terrible memory loss from the time I was on all the medications until recently. Everything is sketchy. I want to make it clear that I did NOT take the prescriptions as recreational drugs or anything. I have never taken drugs, before or since. Evidently my system just can't handle medication well. Anyway, things, bad things, that I said got back to my parents and now they will have nothing to do with me. It has been five years. For the first several years I was frantic trying to figure out why they hated me so much over what I thought was a small fight and they were angry because I divorced my husband during that timeframe also. Only lately have I found out the full extent of what I supposedly did and said. I have no memory whatsoever of saying those things. But people I trust, my other family members and my closest brother, all tell me that they heard me say them. I love my parents dearly and have always been a good daughter and was close to my mom. My dad hasn't really liked me for years because he is my adoptive father. He favors his own biological children over me and always made no bones about that fact. But I really miss my mom. I am in my 50s and she is in her 70s. Who knows how much time either of us has left, you know? How do I go about apologizing to her when she refuses to see me or talk to me? She has control over the rest of the family and she makes sure I do not get invited to family functions. Everyone loves her and doesn't want to upset her further. She just hates me. The mere mention of my name makes her mad all over again. I have a 16 year-old son who mom loves and still has contact with, but only when my son is with my ex, his dad. To add insult to injury, my parents keep in close contact with my ex and his whole family. He is invited to their house for holidays and dinners even when he does not have my son. What should I do? I want my life and my family back. I miss them and love them. I appreciate any advice, thank you.

Answer: I'm so sorry you're going through that. Not having your family on your side is a hard thing to deal with. I'll pray for you and your situation. Now for the advice--Have you tried writing your mom a letter or email? From what you've said, she may not read it, so prepare yourself for that. But it won't hurt to try. Tell her everything that happened from your point of view, that you love her and miss her terribly, and that you need her to be your mom again. I understand that other members of your family don't want to hurt your mother, but you're hurting right now. Talk with someone who is on your side the most and maybe have them talk to you mom with you--as a kind of buffer. Or this person could deliver the letter and make sure she reads it. Be completely honest with not only your mother, but the rest of your family. Keep trying until you want to give up, and then try some more. If this is really important to you, you shouldn't give up. I hope and pray your mom will come around--no child should be discarded like that, no matter what they have done. I hope everything works out for you!

Question: How to treat an oral ulcer caused by trauma from a toothbrush? I did some research about oral ulcer and from the wikipedia.org, and this is what I found out "trauma from a toothbrush may injure the mucosal lining of the mouth resulting in an ulcer". So obviously, the location is mucosal lining of the mouth, exactly where the toothbrush hit. and from www.dentalgain.org/oralulcer.html, it stated that "Traumatic injuries to the oral mucosa are treated by removing the responsible irritant, after which healing is usually uneventful. Healing may be expedited by cleansing the tissues with a mild saline rinse with half strength peroxide." <- I don't really get it, so please explain it to me excatly how.. Thank you. hehe, well, i already understand what the sentence meant a couple of days ago. One of the suggestion from the article was that to rinse with salt water, i guess hahah and thanks for answering.

Answer: gargle with some Oil of oregano.

Question: Are there any resources through govt grants etc for free vocational educ for a 37yr widow w/ 5 kids? Prior to my healthy 39yr old husband collapsing (our three youngest girls; 8yr, 5 yr& 17mo.and I all wittnessing at home) and dying last year on my 37th birthday, I worked at our local acute care Hospital, in the nursing dept.Due to the traumatic manner my husband suddenly died, I am no longer emotionally capable, nor do I want to continue working for the same hospital that the doctor who is responsible for the death of my beloved late husband, also works. Two days prior to his death, my husband became ill with the flu and also bronchitis. He did everything he was supposed to due when one is ill; stay home from work and see the doctor, fill the prescription he writes, and go home for rest and to follow the dr.s instructions.My husband is dead due to the doctors negligence in prescribling promethazine for his nausea(flu)when my husbandhad several pre-existing medical conditions (bronchitis, asthma, stomach ulcer, etc) that norm. would've stopped any one else from prescribing this.

Answer: This is a rambling answer.. I didn't edit it much... There should be. Check with your local colleges. I found out about " Worker Retraining" benefits. All of my education for a two year certificate has been paid for (so far for the last 1.5 years). There should be something.. also being a single mom with children should enable you to be eligible for grants (money that is free). I am so sorry to hear what you have gone through. I was my moms primary caretaker, then she came down with cancer, It was a circus of doctors with a bad result. I feel the Docs lied and essentially killed her ( although the cancer was just as bad) It has taken a huge toll on me. I took a leave of absence from work to care for her, then my job ended - somewhat mutually due to my lack of interest in editing my opinions - due to stress and exhaustion and going through my savings.. its an involved story. I took a severance package./with ui benefits . attended a worker retraining seminar ( an unplanned event for me) ( the schools want you there - they get paid from the gov to have you attend - they are on your side) So I was wisked into college within a week - I had a great counselor that walked me through the red tape. (note: I had not been in college for 30 years) It has been a great experience, and I feel thankful and blessed. It has not been an easy time emotionally. I was going through grief and anxiety - the school has great counseling also. I had really stressful times at school for about 2 quarters. I had stress and anxiety. I called my doc when I had a mini stress breakdown. It was important for me to see her. I am not a person that wants to take meds. She prescribed an anti anxiety med (lorazepam) to take when I felt really stressed. I took it very infrequently. It did allow me to focus when I needed to. I am thankful for this. It really helped at times. Grief counseling was tremendous, although it made me relive everything. Which made going to school challenging. It has been extremely tough at times. It has been less than a year since she died. I am finally feeling centered. School can be a good distraction. Basically life can hit you with a sledge hammer sometimes - This is the time to get a great support system -church/school friends/family etc. My best friend is very involved with her church and was a life saver for me. Her church has been incredibly supportive of me, and the people are great. This made a great difference to me. It helped so much. You need all the support you can drum up now. See all of the counselors you can right now.. Many colleges have free support systems for women returning to school. Health care workers are in high demand. You could switch your focus within healthcare possibly.. I think you have a great chance of making something happen. I am in Washington state. I hope that I mentioned things that are helpful. Regards, Susan

Question: Causes of Internal bleeding? My sister, 27 year old female with no traumatic injuries, is in the ER with internal bleeding. As of now, we don't know why she has internal bleeding but her hemoglobin count is 6.9, which is low (normal is 12-15) and she may have to have a blood transfusion. All I know is that she went to school this morning to take her final, the professor sent her home, she went to the Dr, and the Dr sent her to the ER. I have searched the web for hours and keep finding the same answers, which isn't helping me at all. Basically, I find that there are a lot of reasons; however, none of them apply, at least not to my knowledge. She doesn't have cancer or an ulcer or a lot of the other reasons that are listed on webmd, at least not that I am aware of. Does anyone on here have any possibilities, suggestions or what may cause this?

Answer: Sometimes there are cases when a person is severely anemic, they develop internal bleeding & their blood count drops dramatically. I'm sure the doctors in the ER will test her for just about everything. People also develop GI Bleeds (gastro-intestinal). These could be from an ulcer. You'll have to wait & see what the results of the tests show. I wish you the best. Phyllis G