Narcissist Personality Disorder

Question: Is there anyone have, or had relationship or involved with Narcissist Personality Disorder? Please tell me in details as much as you can, if you have children with him/her..what it's like?...I have been reading a lots of articles about NPD and other Personalities Disorder, but I think the real story will help me understand it better.*I am also pregnant 18 weeks with NPD(I assumed he is)..He still doesn't care and his words and behavior is absolutely abnormal for a man who is becoming a father. You could give me any advices what should I do. Thank you so much for your serious answer. :-) If you want to blame me that I am a stupid girl I don't mind, the reason that I asked you to give me of the real story is because I have never living with this Narcissist guy , I now believed that he lied to me that he got deported 3 yrs from the tax man in UK.Then later on he told me that he was in Open prision for 1 year, I didn't see him 6 months, 9 months, but because I truely love him and I adore love, I was believe in love...we mostly contact each other by e-mails but actually was me that keep sending him 1,000 e-mails because I wanted to show him how much I love him, how much I am committed and serious with our relationship AS His excuse was because he doesn't trust internet dating, which he know me from there*Now he has his profile on match.com looking for girls inspite of he knows that I am pregnant. *I really need to make a dicision that shall I stay where I am or move and never see him ever again.

Answer: there are also people who suffer reverse narcissistic personality disorder and all i can say is get psychiatric help my friend

Question: According to 1 Corinthians 13, can a person with a narcissist personality disorder love without being healed?

Answer: I don't see how they could, as they are so self-centered. I think any "love" they had would revolve around how it would benefit themselves in some way. They're very deceitful people.

Question: Does a person with a personality disorder (or Bipolar - Narcissist) try very hard to avoid rejection? ? Like if things aren't going perfect in courtship - and the girl shows ANY sign on not being ALL about him, he then turns away, even though he still likes her?

Answer: I noticed you didn't mention Borderline Personality Disorder, but a fear of rejection is one of the trademark symptoms of it, and a lot of people confuse it with Bipolar Disorder since Borderline's often have violent mood swings as well. Bipolar is not a personality disorder, but a mood disorder -- it's biochemical. Usually a borderline will lash out in anger over rejection though, while a narcissist would cut people out of their lives completely because they would have the attitude like "well screw her if she doesn't like me -- I'm too good for her anyway". They are always trying to protect their fragile egos. I also noticed some confusion about whether or not narcissists have "fluffy insides". It's not so much that they are "fluffy" -- they are just constantly trying to build themselves up at the expense of everyone else, and often act in a way that hurts others because it benefits them. But, unlike the person with anitsocial personality disorder ( a psychopath), it is all a compensation for poor self esteem. Psychopaths are completely unable to feel remorse or compassion, which is why they act the way they do.

Question: How can A person be a narcissist if he doesn't think highly of him self and doesn't think the world revolves ? Around him ? What defines someone with a narcissist personality disorder ? My therapist thinks it is possible that I have this disorder, but I'm not a bully and I don't believe the world revolves around me.

Answer: take the online test for the narcissistic personality disorder & see how you score! if you score high, then you can look up some information about that disorder & see what it means & why some people have it!

Question: How come there are so few people with narcissistic personality disorder ? Narcissistic personality disorder works very effectively, for the narcissist. It is like a scorched earth policy. Typically destroying evidence. beautiful answers, peeps. thanks.

Answer: They just haven't been diagnosed with that particular disorder. Kinda like people who obsess over other people with narcissistic personality disorder..... THEY haven't yet been diagnosed with OCD. plrr

Question: Do you think this guy gives an accurate description of narcissistic personality disorder on his website? Check this out: http://samvak.tripod.com/ It contains a disclaimer in which Sam Vaknin states that he is not a mental health professional. However, I think he's supposed to have been diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder himself. That being said, would a narcissist with no background in psychology actually know as much about narcissism as a psychologist or other mental health professional?Check the website out and tell me what you think.

Answer: This part I saw in there looks pretty accurate. " * Feels grandiose and self-important (e.g., exaggerates accomplishments, talents, skills, contacts, and personality traits to the point of lying, demands to be recognised as superior without commensurate achievements); * Is obsessed with fantasies of unlimited success, fame, fearsome power or omnipotence, unequalled brilliance (the cerebral narcissist), bodily beauty or sexual performance (the somatic narcissist), or ideal, everlasting, all-conquering love or passion; * Firmly convinced that he or she is unique and, being special, can only be understood by, should only be treated by, or associate with, other special or unique, or high-status people (or institutions); * Requires excessive admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation – or, failing that, wishes to be feared and to be notorious (Narcissistic Supply); * Feels entitled. Demands automatic and full compliance with his or her unreasonable expectations for special and favourable priority treatment; * Is "interpersonally exploitative", i.e., uses others to achieve his or her own ends; * Devoid of empathy. Is unable or unwilling to identify with, acknowledge, or accept the feelings, needs, preferences, priorities, and choices of others; * Constantly envious of others and seeks to hurt or destroy the objects of his or her frustration. Suffers from persecutory (paranoid) delusions as he or she believes that they feel the same about him or her and are likely to act similarly; * Behaves arrogantly and haughtily. Feels superior, omnipotent, omniscient, invincible, immune, "above the law", and omnipresent (magical thinking). Rages when frustrated, contradicted, or confronted by people he or she considers inferior to him or her and unworthy."

Question: Is it common for 2 sisters to have different disorders such as narcissism and borderline personality disorder? I have a freind who has just been diagosed with borderline persoanlity disorder.She is on medication but seems to be losing it.She constantly talks about committing suicide and that she hates life.She has a wonderful husband who she says she wants to divorce.How can i help her? She is living with her mum and sister while her husband is away as she can not be left alone.I think her sister is a narcissist and her mother could also be.Her dad is hated by her mum and sister and they are divorced.My friend still tries to get along with her dad. Her mum and sis do not show to much emotions and the mum was away alot while the kids were small. Do you think that 2 kids could come up with a narcissism and borderline personality disorder and if so do these condition seem conductive for this?Also do you think the narcissism is making things worse for her?

Answer: Yeah, mental disorder runs in families... actually if you really look at the stuff we all have some sort of mental disorder, but some just have it to an extreme... in other words the extreme of mental disorder runs in families... did I make any sense to you there? I have BPD, and I would have to say all of my siblings have something... they just don't want to admit it. It shows though. Well the Mom being away a lot would help to explain the BPD... fear of abandonment... To help her, show her that you love her... and if she has the tendency to be manipulative don't allow her to manipulate you, because it will hurt. But don't stop loving your friend... By the way, if the meds are making it worse... they are not working! call the doctor who prescribed them, and tell him what is going on. (That is if she will not call the doc... he will not be able to talk to you but you can get a message to him about your concern) If he is any good he will get in contact with her and get her off those meds and on to new ones ASAP. (If they are ones that have to be tapered off then he will do so) I'm not sure if there is anything worse than not knowing that a medicine is messing with you and not having anyone to tell the person who is managing that medicine. Good Luck!

Question: does he have mental illnesses (bipolar narcissist, or personality disorders) or can he change his ways? my ex bf&i wer 2gether for 2 yrs.We broke up about 6 mons. ago,but I cant get over him&move on. Im in college now&have met a really nice guy, who shows an interest in me. I dont know y,but i cant just let myself have fun with him&like him on a dif.level(it has been like this w/2 other guys since the breakup w/ my ex)i think its bc i cannot get over him, but hes HORRIBLE&was so unhealthy4me.i never want2get back w/him, but@the same time i still care about him&dont understand why?he was physically&mentally abusive.he has add OCD&was put on antidepressants right b4 we brokeup(he broke up w/ me saying he was happy on his meds&didnt need me2b happy)it all took a toll on me phychologically&i am still healing.him&his parents knew i kept him as "in line" as he could b when i was w/ him.since the breakup,he has gotten a DUI,gotten involved w/ cocaine, gotten a speeding ticket4going140&gotten kicked out of his house.i ran in2 him not long ago&he seems happy.do u think he'll ever change his ways?

Answer: hon it takes time to move on.. you had a two year relationship and that is a little while. you can't expect to move on overnight. and it's only been 6 months. you might want to do a websearch on SURVIVING A BREAK UP. perhaps you could find some useful information. from your boyfriend's recent behaviors, it seems he is out of control. if he is "happy' because he is taking drugs and got arrested for drinking and driving, he has more problems than you can shake a stick at i hope you can find resources for ways to move on, and take care of YOU.. i think there is someone out there who is more compatible. hugs

Question: Does the god in the old testament have a Narcissistic Personality Disorder? All the time getting angry & jealous about things like dancing around golden calves, hating the idea of people bowing to other idols. Testing Abraham's obedience by nearly making him sacrifice his son, etc etc etc. Sounds like a narcissist to me.

Answer: God created us to worship him, what does that tell you about the size of his ego?

Question: Borderline personality disorder or narcissism question? they say that when you divorce someone with borderline personality disorder, they eventually try to hoover you. get you back in some way. however they say when you divorce a narcissist, they just flat out cut you out of your life like you never existed. i thought my ex had borderline but after her nasty filings in court and her total lack of communication in 5 months and her even buying another house already seems to indicate narcissism. If so, how do you deal effectively with someone who is very narcissistic? what's the best way to handle them through a divorce? i've read a lot about the disorders and she has a whole host of personality disorders going on. it's hard to pinpoint. all i know is that she is not right and very, very ugly on the inside. How should i deal with a narcissist during divorce.

Answer: Just a suggestion- Stop trying to diagnose her. Your getting a divorce and its time to start living your life. All the reading and time your putting into it is adding to your frustration. Let it go and let your lawyers handle the logistics of the situation.

Question: Has anyone here, lived with or have a family member, who has Narcissist Personality Disorder? How did the disorder manifest it's self and how did you cope? Thank you for your answers and giving ways to deal with an N. I had two in my life (one has died) he (father) used to do the silent treatment also. Only speaking, when he had company over, then he would deign himself to speak to me. Once the company had left, he would not speak to me for many months at a time.

Answer: i am almost positive that my dad has NPD. for obvious reasons its been impossible to get him to see a doctor and get a diagnosis. some characteristics: -he is always right. if you prove him wrong he becomes defensive and childish, lashing out and deflecting to YOUR flaws, and boy, there are a LOT of them -he expects people to adjust themselves to him. if he wants something, everybody else better accomodate, or he will do his best to make a big nuscence of himself to punish you -he puts people down out of the blue, and for no discerable reason. example: today my little brother was playing basketball in the backyard and my dad screamed out the window "YOU SUCK" for no good reason. keep in mind also that my little brother is my dad's favorite child, because he's the only one still trying to court his affections. the rest of us have given up on him -he had a traumatizing childhood (mother inflated self esteem, father shattered it...) (not really a behavior but i think its related...) -if he feels slighted by me (often) he will first lash out, then ignore me in bitterness for weeks. i've probably exchanged about 20 words with him in the past month. we live in the same house.... and he loves to ***** and moan too. i think those are the main ones. he's not evil, really, and i love him, but i cannot subject myself to his games. so i don't. i avoid him as much as possible. try to be respectful when in his presence but realise that most of what he says isn't true, and anyways has little to do with what he really feels. i tried to engage him for awhile, question him, get him to realize that it is time for change but he blew up. claimed everyone was against him. claimed he was too old to change. changed the subject to my weirdness. and so on. the best thing to do, if you can, is drop the person. if thats not possible, at least avoid any conflict with them. don't let them suck you in. they know how to push buttons and they do it well, but if you allow yourself to be sucked in, nothing good will come of it. good luck!

Question: What mental disorder does Alex from A Clockwork Orange suffer from? For my AP Psychology class I need to watch a movie and diagnose the main character by writing a paper.I choose A Clockwork Orange because I have read the book recently for English and I absolutely love it, but I am confused on what mental disorder Alex suffers from since it seems like it could be more than one. I am leaning towards antisocial personality disorder because he is a "sociopath" but also Alex is a narcissist so possibly narcissistic personality disorder. If anyone has any ideas or any information at all I would greatly appreciate it.

Answer: Well, 3 of the following could be Antisocial Personality Disorder: (1) failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest (2) deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure (3) impulsivity or failure to plan ahead (4) irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults (5) reckless disregard for safety of self or others (6) consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations (7) lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another And 5 or more of the following indicates Narcissistic Personality Disorder: (1) has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements) (2) is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love (3) believes that he or she is "special" and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions) (4) requires excessive admiration (5) has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations (6) is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends (7) lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others (8) is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her (9) shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes So I would definitely say Antisocial, with some Narcissistic traits?

Question: If you have a personality disorder (especially narcissistic) is it actually more selfish to live than to take? your own life. As everyone hates a narcissist and they can not help their behaviour, nor do tablets work.

Answer: I think that it's never the right choice to take your own life, no matter the circumstances. There are things you can do to improve your behavior, even if you can't completely change. That's why people see Psychologists in the first place. But the road to improving is not something magical that a pill can make better, you have to want it badly enough. You have to become aware of your personality disorder, and go against your natural instincts. It may be hard, but it's always better to try than to give up on your life. And there may be more people in your life that care than you think. Remember that just because someone has trouble getting along with you, or gets annoyed with you, doesn't mean that they don't love you. What about your family? If they have given up on you because of this, then they are the selfish ones.

Question: Do people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder act like they are victims of abuse ? My soon to be ex wife has projected herself to everyone outside of the family as a poor abused wife and mother,She used to call the police on me ..for things like coming home late from work ! She also used to tell her friends that the children and I did nothing around the house...when in fact it was her that didn't do a thing. Why do narcissists do this ?

Answer: That doesn't sound like a narcissist...More like an idiot trying to get attention.

Question: Gender differences in the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder: for men only, what do you think? PERSONALITY SUBTYPES. One expert in the field of NPD has suggested a list of subcategories of narcissistic personalities, one of which is the following: Phallic narcissists. Almost all narcissists in this subgroup are male. They tend to be aggressive, athletic, and exhibitionistic; they enjoy showing off their bodies, clothes, and overall "manliness." http://www.minddisorders.com/Kau-Nu/Narc… Do these guys warrant their own sub-group, as proposed? Girly, it has its roots in Psychoanalytic theory. Check 'googlescholar.com' and you will get a good number of hits. Anonymous: NPD also overlaps a lot with the Anti-Social Personality Disorder , and the majority of Anti-Social Personality Disordered are male.

Answer: ok

Question: Are there an abnormal percentage of workplace psychopaths in upper echelons of the workplace ? It is said that the workplace psychopath (narcissist personality disorder) often targets his/her immediate boss. If this is true, there may be an abnormal percentage of workplace psychopaths in upper echelons of the workplace, having gained their positions by ousting a succession of bosses.

Answer: Look at the upper echelons in companies and governments and you can see that it is populated by either: 1) people there because of patronage or parentage, but otherwise of less use than a chocolate fireguard 2) psychopathic narcissists with a power complex